Sunday, August 11, 2013

Join 2013-14 Fantasy Premier League, Club Football Wars Private Leagues

Registration is now open for the 2013-14 Fantasy Premier League season. The game is free to play. And, if you like, you can join the the following private leagues.
  1. UA Private Leauge (For Unizik Alumni) - 1275548-297698
  2. Giants League -  1275548-298547
  3. Gidi League - 1275548-299543

Here’s how to join the private leagues today:
  1. Visit the Fantasy Premier League site and log in
  2. If you’ve never registered before, click the ‘Sign Up’ button
  3. After logging in, select your team (you can always change the team selection later, so don’t worry about finalizing your team right then and there),
  4. Click the ‘League’ tab in the top navigation,
  5. After clicking the “Join A League” link, choose ‘Private League’ and then click the ‘Next’ button,
  6. Enter the codes of leagues of interest and then click the ‘Join Private League’ button
Just log on and pick your team before the season kicks off.
You have £100million to spend on a squad of 15 players, with no more than 3 players from any single team, so spend wisely.
Throughout the season, VisitBritain will be offering lots of fun prizes.

Go ahead and register today, so you can see if you’re the best of the best out of the thousands of EPL fans!

Friday, February 22, 2013

HUMOURINSTINT: THE ART OF THE LOVED


It took a while before I decided to use “LOVE” in the title of this article but settled for it  to increase the audience. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t have a problem with the word, just feel the concept of love is not a feeling but a decision. “LOVE: - A conscious decision to make someone smile, laugh and be happy for specific or infinite period” – Kc Ofoegbu

The concept of love has been somewhat misconstrued by our social construct. Love in its totality is first a commandment and by virtue of freewill you may choose to obey or disregard. But let’s skip that line of thought for now and hopefully bring it up another day, I have something someone more fascinating to share, which epitomizes the art of humorinstint.

Note! If you can’t find humor in everything and can’t be a real sport, then you got no business dating even a mannequin. And I am not shitting you about this! You can’t be best friends with anyone without insulting each other constantly. Humor is like the only explanation of having a partner who is totally aware of how not-so-smart you are but still manages to be seen in public with you.

When that feeling you call whatever, which causes amnesia and makes you forget that there are over a billion of that same gender of that person you can’t do without in the world. When that feeling DIES… because she got fat or he lost his six packs, those jocular taunts and sarcasm are key drugs that can resuscitate your state of amnesia

"Humor is a tool like any other," says Robert L. Weiss, a psychologist at the University of Oregon who studies humor in relationships. "People use humor in lots of different ways, including some negative ones. It's not just one monolithic thing." Almost every sweet, supportive way of using it has an evil twin; an aggressive, selfish or manipulative version. And like those teasing comments in the workplace that can just as easily feel like flattery or an attack, the two sides of humor are so intimately intertwined, it almost isn't funny.

Based on my relationship with someone, I have come to the conclusion that if you love to be in critical state of amnesia, you got to find a female with name meaning - Rock and a genetic humorous foul mouth that is provokingly obvious in her father.  With double graduate honors and an unsanctioned 3rd in being a flippant and still considers self unwitty and unable to engage in an intelligent banter.

She makes hostile quips about my least favorite qualities and quick to use sarcasm or make a joke to change the subject whenever I bring up finances or her indiscretions, you might not even notice that she's trying to be funny. I just wonder why the two of us never seem to want to talk about the important things we disagree about but would rather make jest and laugh about every other thing, idea or event we find interesting.

As much as she disagrees, she’s a purist, yet carnally minded to always assume that everything I say has more than one carnal or taunting meaning. This jokingly lets us put out thoughts in a tentative way that makes our conversations almost never ending.

Beautiful with supple skin, a big head to hold all the apt taunts in the world and sexy in more than one way that you want to love her in so many ways. Dekalia must have been a queen to raise a princess in so such time.

Lest I drift away, the point is humor is valuable to relationships because it can provide a sense of closeness and increase happiness. Researchers believe that affiliative humor, or the type of humor displayed by people who like to make others laugh, is very valuable in romantic relationships.  A study found that when a person perceives that their partner uses affiliative humor they are more satisfied with the relationship.

And in my own study, I have found that when partners use taunting humor between them, a positive bond is created. This bond acts as a strong buffer against stress, disagreements, and disappointment.

So guys, if you have a weak sense of and dissent sarcasm then you better changing your mindset. I suggest you visit your local dvd store and buy up all the stand-up comedies or comedy series dvds you can lay your hands on (All Chris Rock HBO series, Eddie Griffin and Big Bang Theory Series are really cool), will be a step in the right direction to improve your humorless life!

PS: This is dedicated to the lass that adores Belle Dekalia






Wednesday, February 20, 2013

Meeting Women In Your 30s


I don’t want to have sex. I want to date. I want a relationship. When I meet women and they realize this, I'm pretty sure it makes my life more difficult. Sometimes it even means I've blown a chance for a night of no-strings-attached sex. But I can’t help it. I’m in my 30s, and, when it comes to one-night stands, I've done it all. Now I want more. They can smell it on me. Talk about scaring away potential candidates.  

I don’t want to be single when I'm 50. I'm terrified that someday I'll run into my niece at a bar and she will introduce me with great embarrassment to her hubby. So meeting women these days carries a different incentive than it used to when I was slimmer and cared less about most things. The question, when 
dating in your 30s, is whether you're willing to adapt. 

The fact of the matter is you are locked in to stereotypes if you’re still cruising the single social scene after a certain age. Of course, this isn't a problem if you are just looking to get anyone back to your one-bedroom apartment for a night of… you know what. But we are here to talk about dating. I'm talking to the guys who want to get out of the rut of meaningless sexual conquests and step into a partnership that can lead to something more in their lives.

I've been out, meeting lots of women. I have met younger women and women my age. And I can confirm two things with absolute certainty. First, being honest about what you want from women is never a bad thing, even if that thing is a relationship. In most cases, when I have dropped that into a first meet over a drink, women find it endearing.  They find it romantic. There is no downside if you play it sincerely. I’m not saying to be creepy and overly enthusiastic, but letting a girl know you are about more than one night is not uncool anymore. It’s mature. And mature is sexy. That brings me to the second thing.

For many guys, your 30s are the prime of your life. You can be confident about what you want, and you have the experience to back it up. Confidence means being proud of what you want, not underhanded. I once bought a round of drinks at party. Four girls. All drunk. All cute. All fun. The minute I came clean about being a guy looking for "that girl," the deafening sound of their “awwwws!” told me that there was some value in being straightforward. It wasn’t just what I was saying; it was that I was saying it with pride. I was owning that sh*t. And that is cool. 

Meeting women is harder as you get older. And I'm not even speaking about the actual dating part -- that’s in its own is a different ball game. When you first meet, you run the risk of being branded as either unable to commit or just unworthy of being committed to. But in those first moments, you can flip those single 30-something stereotypes on their head by just coming clean. I'm single because I have not met the right girl yet. I want to meet her.  Maybe she's reading this; maybe she's not. But let’s find out. 

Thursday, January 31, 2013

10 steps to stop procrastinating



Takeaway: Everyone procrastinates. But when procrastinating starts to interfere with performance at work, it’s time to stop putting the task aside and get on with it.
Everyone procrastinates. We usually do it to avoid a task that’s unpleasant or daunting. But when procrastinating starts to interfere with performance at work–by causing us to feel worried, fearful, and stressed-out, or by causing others to feel anxious because we’re holding up progress–then it’s time to stop putting the task aside and get on with it.
Here are ten ways to get out of the quicksand of procrastination and reap numerous benefits, which include improved productivity, enhanced mood, less stress, better coworker relationships, a sense of accomplishment, and restored reputation at work as a “doer.”
1. Identify the situation.First, write down the specific task you’ve been putting off. For example, “I have to convert all of my client contacts and notes into the new file-sharing software system and learn how to navigate its tools and folders.” Writing down the task helps you dial in the job at hand.
2. Pinpoint your emotions.What’s preventing you from diving in to this task? It’s typically one or more of three core emotions. Perhaps, to use the above example, you’re intimidated by all the new bells and whistles you’ll have to learn (fear). Or you’re resentful about having to do this when the old system worked perfectly well (anger). Or you’re bummed that you’re just not tech savvy (sadness). This step helps you see the act of dragging your heels for what it truly is: an emotional reaction.
3. Deal with those emotions.It’s helpful to know that emotions–sadness, anger, and fear–are just pure energy in your body. Look at the word “emotion.” It’s energy (e) in motion. Take some time in private to express those emotions constructively. By crying to express sadness, punching or yelling into a pillow or stomping around to release the anger, or doing exaggerated shivering for the fear, you give yourself permission to express the emotion. The energy dissipates and you won’t feel stuck. It’s like letting steam out of a pressure cooker.
4. Do some planning.
Good planning is the foundation of success for most any project. It’s helpful to write it down so you have it for ready reference. Start by getting clear on your goal. Your goal is your beacon to keep you on track in treacherous waters. For example, “I want to be facile with this new software so it’s a useful tool, not an impediment to my progress.” Having a clear and precise idea of your goal will keep you oriented and stay motivated.
5. Find some “truths.”Identify sabotaging thoughts that are hanging in the wings, ready to pounce in a weak moment, then come up with a couple of truths to contradict them. For example, if you continually tell yourself “I’ll never be able to learn all this,” you might say to yourself, I can do this or If others can learn this, so can I. That’s a plain and simple truth. To neutralize your frustration at having to do this task, you might say, I’m doing this because I want to be a team player” or “My boss thinks I’m the best person to do this.
6. Break your goal into a series of small, doable steps.You’ve envisioned the task, dealt with what’s been holding you back, and fixed your destructive thinking. Completing the task requires deciding when you’ll get started and figuring out a doable step-by-step game plan. Write it down, schedule it, and commit to it. Then go on a mental journey, plotting out each part of the task, including details such as whom you will talk with and what about, where and when you’ll be working, and how long you expect each part to take.
7. Anticipate roadblocks.Once you’ve created a game plan, step back and imagine challenges and obstacles that are likely to pop up along the way. For example, other projects with shorter deadlines might land on your desk. How will you tackle such challenges in order to keep moving forward with the big task at hand? For every such scenario, have a tactic ready for sticking to your original plan. You may also want to find someone to support your efforts and with whom you can check in on a regular basis.
8. Take the leap.With all this preparation, it’s time to tackle the task you’ve put off. Before you do, acknowledge your emotions–whether it’s anger, fear, or sadness. Take just a minute or two and release the pent-up emotion in a physical and constructive way. Without the emotional energy dragging you down, you’ll feel prepared to take the leap and be amazed how easy it is as you just focus on one step at a time.
9. Battle resistance.As you move through the task, you’re likely to meet with resistance in the form of excuses, bad moods, and discouragement. Meet resistance with tenacity and stubbornness, and continue to deal with any emotions that surface. Say to yourself, I can do this. I’ll feel better when I handle this. Say it over and over until it’s set in your mind. Any time you feel discouraged or are tempted to procrastinate, refocus on the goal.
10. Focus on the upside.Getting through a daunting task is incredibly satisfying. Praise each little step along the way. Remind yourself at every step that you’ll feel incredibly virtuous when you get the task off your plate once and for all. Accomplishing what you’re avoiding will simplify your work life. You’ll feel more energetic. You’ll sleep better at night.
Jude Bijou, MA, MFT, is a respected psychotherapist, professional educator, and workshop leader. Her theory of Attitude Reconstruction® evolved over the course of more than 30 years working with clients as a licensed marriage and family therapist, and is the subject of her award-winning book, Attitude Reconstruction: A Blueprint for Building a Better Life. Learn more athttp://www.attitudereconstruction.com/.

Thursday, August 30, 2012

Subconcious Signals Women Send That Leave Them Single


There are several ways to communicate and nonverbal is often the loudest. One can think they are communicating one thing but are actually subconsciously projecting another tale all together. These cues are often picked up by others unknowingly and they unconscious respond to the displayed stimuli. Men also pick up on these nonverbal cues that women unconsciously send and they react to them accordingly, women may not know why men keep repelling them and proposing to their friends but this is a major factor. An example, for the sake of empathy, is meeting a person for the first time and during your interaction you feel like you've known them all your life, primarily because your verbal and your nonverbal communication is in sync. You feel comfortable around them because what they saying and what their body is also saying is in comport and consistent so you believe them and thus a connection forms. This is the same combustion that occurs when a man meets a woman and although she thinks she's communicating the commitment she so much desires, she is actually non-verbally dissuading a relationship. I have selected a few common nonverbal cues that women 'accidentally' send to men that leave them single- I have segregated them into 3 categories: What you think: what you communicate: what he does.

Independence

What you think: I am independent. I can buy my own drinks, I can pay my own bills, I own my  car and I don't need a man to tell me what to do.
What you communicate: I don’t need a man
What he does: Propose to your friend and you are a bride’s maid.

Socialite
What you think: I like to have fun and meet new people; it’s mainly for networking and plain fun. It doesn’t mean that I’ll hook with just any random guy. Am just social.
What you communicate: Am an unstable being who needs to constantly surround myself with people in order to feel special and important.
What he does: Propose to your friend and you are a bridesmaid.

Alcohol
What you think: I enjoy the occasional drink with my friends and I don’t drink much however I know if I get out of hand my friends will take care of me.
What you communicate: Drinking is my excuse to participate in sordid behavior that I blame on alcohol.
What he does:  Propose to your friend and you are a bridesmaid.

Buying Expensive Fake Labels
What you think: I like to look good and spending a little extra even though I know the brand is fake doesn’t hurt, as long as I look great.
What you communicate: I am a fake ass bitch who doesn’t focus on value but impression. I will only value our relationship as long as you keep being worth something.
What he does: Propose to your friend and you are a bridesmaid.

Girlfriends
What you think: My girls and I are tight, we’ve known each other since secondary and I know they always have my back.
What you communicate: I am a complete package, marry me and know that you also ‘marry’ my girls as they are also a part of me.
What he does: Propose to your girlfriends and you are not asked to be a bridesmaid.

Smoking
What you think: I can quit smoking anytime, I just do it when I go out or when am stressed…but I can quit anytime.
What you communicate: Despite all the fucking health warnings I still smoke to look cool so I obviously don’t care about my health so why should you care for me.
What he does: Propose to your friend and you are a bridesmaid.

Casual Sex
What you think: It’s my body and I have the right to sleep with whomever I choose, besides am single and free.
What you communicate: Am whore and shall spread it for anyone.
What he does: Propose to your friend, fuck you and not invite you for the wedding.

Sex on First Date
What you think: I really like this guy and I know if I give him sex he will keep taking me out to expensive restaurants in his Range Rover.
What you communicate: Any guy who takes me or has ever taken me to an expensive restaurant in a Range Rover shall get to hit this.
What he does: Proposes to a virgin.

Before you indulge in certain behavior that would be detrimental to your getting married, do think about the nonverbal messages it carries because unfortunately you shan’t have the chance to explain yourself to the man who is watching or even interacting with you. Subconscious communication carries more weight than verbal communication so if you keep finding yourself a bridesmaid to your friend’s weddings please ask yourself what nonverbal cues you are sending out and remember it is not what it is…it is what it seems.

Professor Flibbertigibbet

Thursday, February 23, 2012

We Are All Ignorant: Collection Of Quotes That Tend To Support Conspiracy Theories

I have been away for a very long time. The desire to make a life in this crazy controlled world has kept me away from blogging and drove me into seeking answers to questions no one would niether ask or give answers;

below are a collection of quotes that might spark the thought that the world as you know it, is a wool that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth. Read quotes below;

"All tyranny needs to gain a foothold is for people of good conscience to remain silent."
-Thomas Jefferson

"Governments do not govern, but merely control the machinery of government, being themselves controlled by the hidden hand."
- Benjamin Disraeli

There is no such thing in America as an independent press. You know it and I know it... The business of the Journalist is to destroy truth; To lie outright; To pervert; To vilify; To fawn at the feet of mammon, and to sell his county and his race for his daily bread.
- John Swinton, newsman and former editor at The New York Times

"If we understand the mechanism and motives of the group mind, it is now possible to control and regiment the masses according to our will without their knowing it."
-- Edward L. Bernays, the nephew of Sigmund Freud who studied his uncle's work. (Quote gleaned from "Flat Earth News" by Nick Davies)

"We must now face the harsh truth that the objectives of communism are being steadily advanced because many of us do not recognize the means used to advance them. ... The individual is handicapped by coming face to face with a Conspiracy so monstrous he cannot believe it exists. The American mind simply has not come to a realization of the evil which has been introduced into our midst."
-- J. Edgar Hoover (Elks Magazine, August 1956.)

"A holy war will now begin on America, and when it is ended America will be supposedly the citadel of freedom, but her millions will unknowingly be loyal subjects to the Crown. Your churches will be used to teach the Jew's religion and in less than two hundred years the whole nation will be working for divine world government. That government that they believe to be divine will be the British Empire. All religions will be permeated with Judaism without even being noticed by the masses, and they will all be under the invisible all-seeing eye of the Grand Architect of Freemasonry."
-- British General Charles Cornwallis to General George Washington
"The man who reads nothing at all is better educated than the man who reads nothing but newspapers."
-- Thomas Jefferson

"It's not the votes that count; it's who counts the votes."
-- Josef Stalin –

"There will be in the next generation or so a pharmacological method of making people love their servitude and producing dictatorship without tears so to speak. Producing a kind of painless concentration camp for entire societies so that people will in fact have their liberties taken away from them, but will rather enjoy it, because they will be distracted from any desire to rebel by propaganda, or brainwashing, or brainwashing enhanced by pharmacological methods. And this seems to be the final revolution."
-- Aldous Huxley, Tavistock Group, California Medical School, 1961

"We are in a process of developing a whole series of techniques which will enable the controlling oligarchy to get people to actually love their servitude. A really efficient totalitarian state would be one in which the all-powerful executive of political bosses and their army of managers control a population of slaves who do not have to be coerced, because they love their servitude. To make them love it is the task assigned, in present-day totalitarian states, to ministries of propaganda, newspaper editors, and school teachers....The greatest triumphs of propaganda have been accomplished, not by doing something, but by refraining from doing. Great is truth, but still greater, from a practical point of view, is silence about truth."
--Aldous Huxley

"Why of course the people don't want war. Why should some poor slob on a farm want to risk his life in a war when the best he can get out of it is to come back to his farm in one piece? Naturally, the common people don't want war, neither in Russia, nor in England, nor for that matter in Germany. That is understood. But after all it is the leaders of the country who determine the policy, and it is always a simple matter to drag the people along, whether it is a democracy, or a fascist dictatorship, or a parliament, or a communist dictatorship ... Voice or no voice, the people can always be brought to the bidding of the leaders. That is easy. All you have to do is to tell them they are being attacked, and denounce the pacifists for lack of patriotism and exposing the country to danger."
-- Leading Nazi leader, Hermann Goering, at the Nuremberg Trials before he was sentenced to death

"Our job is to give people not what they want, but what we decide they ought to have."
-- Richard Salent, Former President CBS News

"One cannot wage war under present conditions without the support of public opinion, which is tremendously molded by the press and other forms of propaganda."
-- General Douglas MacArthur

"If you give a man the correct information for seven years, he may believe the incorrect information on the first day of the eighth year when it is necessary, from your point of view, that he should do so. Your first job is to build the credibility and the authenticity of your propaganda, and persuade the enemy to trust you although you are his enemy."
-- A Psychological Warfare Casebook Operations Research Office Johns Hopkins University Baltimore (1958)

"The first casualty of war is truth."
--Rudyard Kipling

"Today Americans would be outraged if U.N. troops entered Los Angeles to restore order; tomorrow they will be grateful. This is especially true if they were told there was an outside threat from beyond, whether real or promulgated, that threatened our very existence. It is then that all peoples of the world will plead with world leaders to deliver them from this evil. The one thing every man fears is the unknown. When presented with this scenario, individual rights will be willingly relinquished for the guarantee of their well-being granted to them by their world government."
-- Henry Kissinger speaking at Evian, France, May 21, 1992 Bilderburgers meeting. Unbeknownst to Kissinger, his speech was taped by a Swiss delegate to the meeting.

"People only see what they are prepared to see." -Ralph Waldo Emerson
"The high office of President has been used to foment a plot to destroy the American's freedom, and before I leave office I must inform the citizen of his plight."
--John F. Kennedy, at Columbia University, 10 days before his assassination.

"It is also important for the State to inculcate in its subjects an aversion to any 'conspiracy theory of history;' for a search for 'conspiracies' means a search for motives and an attribution of responsibility for historical misdeeds."
--Murray N. Rothbard, in The Anatomy of the State

"The secret to success is to own nothing, but control everything."
--Nelson Rockefeller

"I want to own nothing and control everything"
--J D Rockefeller I

"The drive of the Rockefellers and their allies is to create a one-world government combining supercapitalism and Communism under the same tent, all under their control.... Do I mean conspiracy? Yes I do. I am convinced there is such a plot, international in scope, generations old in planning, and incredibly evil in intent."
--Larry P. McDonald, US Congressman, 1976, killed in the Korean Airlines 747 that was shot down by the Soviets

"The real menace of our republic is this invisible government which like a giant octopus sprawls its slimy length over city, state and nation. Like the octopus of real life, it operates under cover of a self created screen....At the head of this octopus are the Rockefeller Standard Oil interests and a small group of powerful banking houses generally referred to as international bankers. The little coterie of powerful international bankers virtually run the United States government for their own selfish purposes. They practically control both political parties."
--John F. Hylan, 1922, then mayor of New York City

"The money powers prey upon the nation in times of peace and conspire against it in times of adversity. It is more despotic than a monarchy, more insolent than autocracy, and more selfish than bureaucracy. It denounces as public enemies, all who question it's methods or throw light upon it's crimes. I have two great enemies, the Southern Army in front of me and the Bankers in the rear. Of the two, the one at my rear is my greatest foe... corporations have been enthroned and an era of corruption in high places will follow, and the money powers of the country will endeavor to prolong it's reign by working upon the prejudices of the people until the wealth is aggregated in the hands of a few, and the Republic is destroyed.
-- Abraham Lincoln

"Some of the biggest men in the United States, in the field of commerce and manufacture, are afraid of something. They know that there is a power somewhere so organized, so subtle, so watchful, so interlocked, so complete, so pervasive, that they had better not speak above their breath when they speak in condemnation of it."
--Woodrow Wilson, from his book The New Freedom (1913)

"I am a most unhappy man. I have unwittingly ruined my country. A great industrial nation is controlled by its system of credit. Our system of credit is concentrated. The growth of the nation, therefore, and all our activities are in the hands of a few men. We have come to be one of the worst ruled, one of the most completely controlled and dominated Governments in the civilized world - no longer a Government by free opinion, no longer a Government by conviction and the vote of the majority, but a Government by the opinion and duress of a small group of dominant men."
--President Woodrow Wilson (The president whose administration passed the Federal Reserve Act)

"If the American people ever allow private banks to control the issue of their currency, first by inflation, then by deflation, the banks and the corporations which grow up around them will deprive the people of all property until their children wake up homeless on the continent their fathers conquered."
-- Thomas Jefferson

"The hand that gives is above the hand that takes. Money has no motherland; financiers are without patriotism and without decency: their sole object is gain."
-- Napoleon Bonaparte

"The real rulers in Washington are invisible, and exercise power from behind the scenes."
--Felix Frankfurter, Supreme Court Justice

"The world is governed by very different personages from what is imagined by those who are not behind the scenes."
--Benjamin Disraeli, first Prime Minister of England, in a novel he published in 1844 called Coningsby, the New Generation

"Gentlemen, I have had men watching you for a long time and I am convinced that you have used the funds of the bank to speculate in the breadstuffs of the country. When you won, you divided the profits amongst you, and when you lost, you charged it to the bank. You tell me that if I take the deposits from the bank and annul its charter, I shall ruin ten thousand families. That may be true, gentlemen, but that is your sin! Should I let you go on, you will ruin fifty thousand families, and that would be my sin! You are a den of vipers and thieves."
--Attributed to President Andrew Jackson, who in 1836 forced the closing of the Second Bank of the U.S. by revoking its charter.

"The Federal Reserve Banks are one of the most corrupt institutions the world has ever seen. There is not a man within the sound of my voice who does not know that this Nation is run by the International Bankers."
--Congressman Louis T. McFadden (Rep. Pa)
"We have, in this country, one of the most corrupt institutions the world has ever known. I refer to the Federal Reserve Board. This evil institution has impoverished the people of the United States and has practically bankrupted our government. It has done this through the corrupt practices of the moneyed vultures who control it".
-- Congressman Louis T. McFadden in 1932 (Rep. Pa)

"I care not what puppet is placed on the throne of England to rule the Empire, ... The man that controls Britain's money supply controls the British Empire. And I control the money supply."
--Baron Nathan Mayer de Rothschild (1777-1836)
"These are the rules of big business. They have superseded the teachings of our parents and are reducible to a simple maxim: Get a monopoly; let Society work for you; and remember that the best of all business is politics, for a legislative grant, franchise, subsidy or tax exemption is worth more than a Kimberly or Comstock lode, since it does not require any labor, either mental or physical, for its exploitation."
--Frederick C. Howe, in Confessions of a Monopolist (1906)

"If we were merely dealing with the law of averages, half of the events affecting our nation's well-being should be good for America. If we were dealing with mere incompetence, our leaders should occasionally make a mistake in our favor. We . . . are not dealing with coincidence or stupidity, but with planning and brilliance."
--Gary Allen, from his book None Dare Call It Conspiracy

"In politics, nothing happens by accident. If it happens, you can bet it was planned that way." --Franklin D. Roosevelt

"A nation can survive its fools, and even the ambitious. But it cannot survive treason from within. An enemy at the gates is less formidable, for he is known and carries his banner openly. But the traitor moves amongst those within the gate freely, his sly whispers rustling through all the alleys, heard in the very halls of government itself. For the traitor appears not a traitor; he speaks in accents familiar to his victims, and he wears their face and their garments, he appeals to the baseness that lies deep in the hearts of all men. He rots the soul of a nation, he works secretly and unknown in the night to undermine the pillars of the city, he infects the body politic so that it can no longer resist. A murderer is less to fear."
--Marcus Tullius Cicero 42 BC

"As nightfall does not come at once, neither does oppression do. In both instances, there's twilight where everything remains seemingly unchanged, and it is in such twilight that we must be aware of change in the air, however slight, lest we become unwitting victims of the darkness."
--Supreme Court Justice William O. Douglas

"When a well-packaged web of lies has been sold gradually to the masses over generations, the truth will seem utterly preposterous and its speaker a raving lunatic."
--Dresden James

"In a time of universal deceit - telling the truth is a revolutionary act."
--George Orwell

"If 50 million people say a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing."
--Anatole France

Thursday, June 9, 2011

The Big Mistake Most Men Make on a Date: Paying Her Way


Tell me something and be brutally honest: are you one of those guys who still pays a woman's way on a date? I'm no mind-reader, but I'll bet I know the answer...
Of course you're paying for women on dates. And that's why this URGENT TIP is aimed directly at you: you need to STOP IT. Right NOW.
I know, I know... You think you're impressing her. Scoring points. But here's the shocking (and slightly counter-intuitive) fact:
PAYING A WOMAN'S WAY ON A DATE ACTUALLY *DECREASES* YOUR CHANCE OF SUCCESS WITH HER.
Stay with me, since the reasons for all this can sound as misleading as they are simple.
For our purposes, I want you to consider "traditional dinner dates" to be a thing of the past. History. As far as we're concerned, they're now officially EXTINCT.
Why?
Because when you ask a woman out and then pay for the date, you're making her think of you in THE COMPLETELY WRONG WAY.
Pretty profound, I know. But please, hold the applause.
Let me explain this a little more...
A lot of good research suggests that women think men, who are potential mates, fall into one of two categories. I call these categories "Lover" and "Provider".
The basic idea goes like this:
In a "traditional" boy-meets-girl situation, the girl makes a decision early on whether you're the type of guy that she should get physically involved with quickly (spelled A-T-T-R-A-C-T-I-O- N), or if you're of the "nicer" type (spelled W-U-S-S-Y) that would be glad to "prove" himself to her by paying for lots of expensive dates, buying flowers, etc.
I realize that I'm generalizing here, and that I'm being a bit extreme... but I'm making a point, so go with me.
A very common approach that men use is the old "Can I take you out sometime?" line.
At first glance, it sounds innocent enough.
It has the ring of "I'm a nice guy, and I'd like to take you to dinner so I have a chance to get to know you better" to it, right?
Well, it may seem that way at first glance, but let's get a little deeper into what ELSE you're saying when you ask a question like this one (or start off by paying for dinner, etc.).
Here are a few of the OTHER LESS OBVIOUS things that you're saying when you offer to "take a woman out".

1) You're starting off the relationship RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING by offering to buy something for her, and more importantly YOU'RE SETTING AN EXPECTATION. In other words, when you do this, you're setting an expectation that you're going to do this from NOW ON.

2) You're subtly saying, "I feel like I need to use a bribe to get you to see me again". I'm sure that men have been bribing women with food and gifts since the dawn of our species. Does this sound far-fetched to you? Check out how our closest relatives, the chimps use food to persuade females to have sex with them. No, really.

3) Once you "take a woman out" and prove to her beyond the shadow of a doubt that you like to pay for things, you set a whole series of other subconscious expectations in place. Without going into detail, most of these other expectations will only lead her thinking of you in the "nice guy" category, and costing you time and money that you might as well have thrown down a rat hole.

4) By going out to a typical nice restaurant setting, you start a whole chain of events that often leads to two people looking at each other over a candle, in a loud room full of other people, with a typically uncomfortable "OK, so tell me about yourself and don't ask me too many personal questions please" look on your faces.
I don't know about you, but this just isn't my idea of a good time.
So, what's the alternative?
Thought you'd never ask.

Success with women is about becoming the type of man that NATURALLY attracts them. Becoming the type of man who projects power, confidence, and masculinity. The kind of cool, charismatic guy that other men want to emulate and women LOVE to be seen with.
Of course, there's a lot that goes into eliminating all the "uncool" baggage and habits that guys carry around like man-purses, usually without even realizing it.
The inner "wussy" that sabotages your success with women can be sneaky. In fact, sometimes it's hard to see even when it's staring straight back at you from the mirror.