How Women Test Men And How To Pass

Women test men because they need to QUICKLY figure out what they're dealing with, and they can't expect a man to just be straight up and honest about his strengths and weaknesses.

I mean, let's face it... we guys like to talk a big game, but when it comes to walking the talk,we often can't BACK IT UP. Also, beautiful women have a lot of options. They have their pick of men. And beautiful women prefer STRONG men. Not physically strong (although this can be an advantage), but strong in CHARACTER and PERSONAL IDENTITY. Remember! Women aren't attracted to WUSSIES.

So let me ask you... if you were an attractive woman that was being chased around by 100 guys,how would YOU go about figuring out which one or ones were the "real deal" and which were merely FAKING strength and confidence? Of course... you'd have to TEST them. But you couldn't test by saying, "OK, I'm going to give you a test now, so get ready." 

No no NO! You'd have to use "blind" tests. Tests that would allow you to see a man's true strengths and weaknesses. And in fact, you'd want to use tests that ideally DIDN'T ALLOW HIM TO KNOW THAT YOU WERE TESTING... OR WHAT YOU HAD  DISCOVERED ABOUT HIM WITH THOSE TESTS. This way, if he turned out to be a Wuss Bag, you could slip away quickly and easily.

This would give you the power... Of course. And if you did this OFTEN, you'd eventually become so accustomed to doing it, that MANY of the tests would become SUBCONSCIOUS and work their way into your NATURAL, EVERYDAY way of communicating

with men. 

Well, guess what? That's what is going on with beautiful women. Many of the tests that they use with men are actually OUTSIDE OF THEIR AWARENESS. They test us

automatically! And if you fail one of these tests, there's a good chance that you won't get another chance. In this fast-paced world, we humans don't have the time to spend getting to know people over a few months or years to figure out whether or not they're the kind of person that would make a good

friend or mate. We need to know NOW.

So we use shortcuts. Testing is a shortcut for women. It lets them discover VERY RAPIDLY whether you have BALLS, or if you're just another one of the bazillion Wusses that are trying to get her attention. I hope you feel what I'm saying.

So, the next time you're standing in front of a beautiful woman who you've just asked for her number and she says, "Why don't you just give me yours and I'll call YOU..." try CHUCKLING out loud, and saying:

"Oh, come on. Don't give me that old line. Write your number down and I'll only call you 25 times a day until you wind up having to change it because I have nothing better to do with my time than call someone who doesn't want to hear from me." Then hand her a pen, point to the paper, and look her in the eye expectantly.

Love it.

Now, obviously there's a lot more to this issue of TESTING. There's a lot more going on than meets the eye. There are all kinds of subtle cues and body language that women read to decide just what kind of man you are... and these cues also trigger ATTRACTION (or the opposite).

Guys Beware of Being Just a Friend

Most women can get sex anywhere, any time and any way they want it. The problem for us guys is that women don't want sex anywhere, any time and any way we want it. For women, sex comes bundled up with an onslaught of dizzying and complicated emotions. The result? It's infinitely easier for women to place men into the category of friends rather than admit them as lovers.

In fact, for a woman, a male friend is the best of both worlds: She can reap all the benefits of having a man around (strength, decision-making, solid advice, logic, common sense, and so on) without the hormone-based entanglements that sex brings to the table.

But men are different. Since we aren't saddled with psychologically crippling emotions, we aren't burdened with the senselessness of separating friendship from sex. In fact, for us, it's just the opposite: When a man likes a woman, he naturally wants to express his feelings between the sheets. This is natural.

Unfortunately, the female brain can't process this logic. Instead, it quickly either-ors any guy it encounters: Either he's going to be a lover or he's going to be a friend. And once a woman has relegated you to the Friend Zone, it's all but impossible for her to see you in any other way. Of course, she'll still expect you to act like the lovers she's currently sex-ploiting -- by forcing you to pay for her meals and cart her around like a chauffeur -- but without the fringe benefit of doing the horizontal hula.

Many guys fantasize that, by acting as a hot girl's friend or romantic counselor, they can backdoor it into her heart or her bed. This may work well in romantic comedies (or possibly with psychotic women), but in real life, you're just kidding yourself. You're a friend, and she doesn't need you for sex.

So how do you know if you're in the Friend Zone? Here are a few tip-offs.

you're just a friend if

You hear phrases like: I can talk to you about anything, You're really a nice guy, You're like a brother to me, You're my best friend, and You understand me."
You finally work up the courage to ask her out and she tells you: I don't want to jeopardize our friendship, I like you too much to go out with you, I don't want to risk losing what we have, and so on.
She tells you all about her problems with men.
She asks you for advice about the men she's attracted to.
She tells you excitedly, I just met this really great guy!

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10 Traits of a Real Man

Fuck it! I just had to share this one. Writing Strictly for Guys Blog requires me to browse issues and trends that concerns men, I don’t get to share them all and being that tips on women forms the core of this blog, but I figured you can’t apply these tips if you don’t understand the basics. And this post is definitely one of those basics. Anyway, if you visit askmen.com you definitely can’t ignore Mr. Mafioso posts! Real life experience of a Mafia and street coated advice from the Capo himself. So, here is one of his classic every guy must read! Hey, okay and ladies too…

Trait No. 1: A real man is strong

A real man doesn't cry, doesn't moan, doesn't complain, doesn't get sick, and doesn't need to go to the doctor every time he sneezes. A real man makes decisions and lives with the consequences. A real man accepts responsibility for his actions and his words. A real man is firm. If life is a b*tch, a real man will slap it and move on.

A real man is macho; a real man is tough; a real man doesn't show emotions. A real man is the backbone of his family and doesn't have time to be weak. If spiders scare you, you'll never be a real man.

Trait No. 2: A real man is focused

A real man knows the difference between what's important and what isn't. A real man doesn't waste time on stupidities that don't bring him any profit. Sure, there are things you can do as a hobby -- I like to shoot ducks -- but it must have a purpose. The purpose of my hobby is to improve my aim, and I don't have to tell you whether or not that's a useful thing in my line of work.

A real man focuses on power, money and family. He doesn't focus on sex. Sex comes as a result of having power, money and a wife (and if she doesn't satisfy you, there are plenty of other women who will, especially when you are powerful and rich).

Trait No. 3: A real man knows the importance of family

A real man will keep his family strong and pass on his ancestors' history and traditions. A real man knows that his children are God's gift and should be treated as such, even if he disciplines them from time to time.

A real man must also remember his other Family, his organization. In my world, both my family and my Family hold the same importance; I protect them both with all my might. If you have a Family, don't forget where your loyalties lie and who has your back when you need it.

Trait No. 4: A real man doesn't gossip

A real man follows omerta; he keeps his mouth shut. He shelters information and rations his words. A real man does not reveal more than he has to and doesn't engage in girlie talk about others. A real man doesn't discuss things he doesn't know about or people he has never met.

Trait No. 5: A real man's word is his bond

When a real man makes a promise, he keeps it. If he can't keep a promise, he doesn't give his word. A real man would rather die than break his word. A real man knows that his words are as powerful as his actions, and that they must be taken at face value. That is why he rations them (see above).

Trait No. 6: A real man strives to be a role model

A real man respects himself and others at all times, unless, of course, he has been disrespected. A real man sets an example for his disciples, and especially for his children. I never bring my work home, so my children only know me as their father and not as a waste management executive. You should do the same; a real man sets the tone for his children and keeps them from discovering that he has weaknesses.

Trait No. 7: A real man makes his own fortune

A real man doesn't settle for handouts or charity when it comes to his personal fortune. A real man isn't satisfied with papa's money. He spits on Lady Luck and decides his own destiny. A real man who inherits goods from his forefathers takes his inheritance and turns it into 10 times what it was.

Trait No. 8: A real man doesn't look like a woman

A real man doesn't have piercings and long hair, and he doesn't shave his chest. Manicures, however, are acceptable. Massages from female attendants are also tolerated. A real man knows that, outside of his barber, all his personal hygiene needs must be taken care of by a woman.

A real man has at least three suits (with a mandatory pinstriped one) that cost more than a roomful of escorts. A real man wears a suit at least three times a week. Any man who doesn't know how to tie a tie should hand in his testicoli immediately.

Trait No. 9: A real man keeps his house in order

Have you ever been inside the boss’ house? There ain’t no pizza boxes sitting around, there ain’t no undershirts on the floor, and there sure as hell ain’t no unpaid bills being used as beer coasters. No ruler can rule over a territory if he isn’t already the master of his own home.

This means you lazy pinheads out there need to stop using machismo as an excuse to live like a bottom-feeder; keep your sty spotless, keep your documents in order and -- listen up on this one -- clean your freaking suits.

Trait No. 10: A real man can defend himself

You know what’s missing in the world today? Leaders who have had to fight their way to the top. No joking, look at the head of any business that’s circling the toilet bowl, and I’ll show you a boss whose parents' power and money kept him from ever learning things the hard way.

So what have you learned here today, class? You learned that you have a lot of homework to do before you can call yourself a real man. A real man is the essence of manhood because, by definition, he has achieved the pinnacle of his role.

You see? That was me trying to be a smart-ass. Here's a bonus trait: A real man keeps it simple. If you know big words, use them rarely and appropriately, at least in front of morons who think they're smarter than you. Remember, the stuff inside matters most. Lesson over.

Watch your backs and keep your noses clean.

Fw: Why Football And Religion Are Not Always In Holy Alliance...

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From: Chidozie Farsight <chidoziefarsight@gmail.com>
Date: Fri, 17 Sep 2010 15:45:17
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Subject: Why Football And Religion Are Not Always In Holy Alliance...

The news that West Ham United's Israeli manager, Avram Grant, has been
excused duty for the Hammers' league game against Stoke City this
weekend in order to observe Yom Kippur — one of the holiest dates in
the Jewish calendar, requiring Jews to fast and pray on Friday night
and Saturday — has put the relationship between football and faith
under the spotlight in a week when the Pope kicked off his state visit
to Britain in Glasgow – a footballing city whose Old Firm rivalry is
still defined by the Protestant-Catholic religious divide.

Through the tensions of sectarianism, the devout beliefs of
individuals in the game, the inexorable spread of secularism and even
the infamous 'Hand of God', the coming together of football and
religion has long produced conflict.

Yet the prevalence of club chaplains and the familiar sight of players
crossing themselves as they enter the pitch confirms that a certain
accommodation has also been reached.

Just another manic Sunday

In the UK, condemned this week as aggressively atheist by one of the
Pope's entourage (who was subsequently dropped), bodies like the
Lord's Day Observance Society saw the work of the Devil in the
decision to launch Sunday soccer on January 6, 1974 when four FA Cup
ties were staged. Big crowds at all four made the experiment an
irreversible success, to the chagrin of churchgoers. Oddly, the
regular staging of a full league programme on Christmas Day until the
mid-1950s had aroused much less controversy.

But keeping certain days holy clearly means a lot to some believers.
Avram Grant – who may yet walk to the Britannia Stadium to attend the
game in silence - might identify to an extent with compatriot Dudu
Aouate, the Israeli goalkeeper currently playing for Real Mallorca. In
September 2006, his then team Deportivo La Coruna's fixture against
Real Sociedad was scheduled for the night of Yom Kippur, on which
playing football is one of the prohibitions.

As a compromise, Aouate said he'd take part in the match but then
extend his observance of the Day of Atonement by a couple of hours to
make up for non-observance time during the game. His decision upset
many in Israel, some calling for him to be dropped from the national
team.

The ultimate extra-time



Another goalkeeper, Argentina 's Carlos Roa (right), who famously
saved a David Batty penalty in a shoot-out against England at the 1998
World Cup, stunned football by announcing he was quitting the game
because his Seventh Day Adventist religion would not allow him to
train or play on Saturdays. That was shortly before 2000, when he was
at the peak of his career with Mallorca, and he further declared his
belief that the new millennium would signal the end of the world. He
retreated to a farm in rural Argentina to await his fate, acting as
priest to his family. When no apocalypse materialised, he swallowed
his pride and came out of retirement, returning to Mallorca, then
Albacete and finally Olimpo back in Argentina.

Gotta serve somebody





Others have found football got in the way of their religious beliefs,
too. Nigeria defender Taribo West (left) reacted to his own wealth and
the materialism all around him by becoming a born-again Christian and
pastor and founding his own church – the Shelter from the Storm
Ministry - in Milan, where he played for both San Siro clubs. After he
left Milan in 2000, he frequently returned there to preach in his
church, which created friction with his new club Derby County. He was
transferred to Kaiserslauten, where instead of attending Sunday
morning training he preached to his  congregation back in Italy. When
the German outfit consequently sacked him, he stressed that, "The Lord
is more important to me than a football club".

Someone else who lost his job in football because of his spiritual
beliefs is Glenn Hoddle, who was sacked as England manager in 1999
after publicly implying that disabled people were responsible for
their own suffering. Hoddle, who also placed great trust in the powers
of a faith healer, had said: "You and I have been physically given two
hands and two legs and half-decent brains. Some people have not been
born like that for a reason; karma is working from another lifetime."

Instant karma | The word of Hod backfired

Twenty years earlier, Wolves superstar Peter Knowles hadn't waited to
be pushed, but voluntarily gave up football to concentrate on studying
the Bible and spreading the word as a Jehovah's Witness. He stuck to
his guns, though Wolves kept his contract open for another 12 years in
the hope that he might one day return to the game. In 1991, Billy
Bragg recorded a song, "God's Footballer", which was widely seen as a
direct reference to Knowles.

The number of the beast

Others have found ways to keep the faith without quitting their
careers, though certain compromises have had to be made. As a devout
Muslim, Fredi Kanoute (right) insisted that wearing the Sevilla shirt,
emblazoned with the name of sponsor and online gambling company 888,
was an affront to his religion. He declared: "Gambling is the work of
Satan. It is forbidden by the Koran and I will not play in a shirt
that promotes it."  So he taped over the offending name in protest.
And played.

Sevilla's own compromise, to appease both 888 and Kanoute, was to
agree on a charitable donation to a cause supported by Kanoute, if the
striker would carry on scoring while wearing the devilish garment.

The God squad & Fifa's commandments

In sharp contrast, some footballers have used their on-pitch attire to
advertise their faith, in the process giving Fifa something of a
crisis of conscience. Well, an embarrassing dilemma anyway. The world
governing body controversially disciplined the Brazil team for some
overt declarations of Christian allegiance during a Confederations Cup
final. Stars including Kaka and Lucio revealed T-shirts with slogans
such as "I Belong to Jesus" and "I Love God", and after their victory
players and coaching staff formed a circle and went down on their
knees in prayer.

Fifa has regulations which specifically ban players from making
displays of a personal, religious or political nature on the pitch,
and sent a warning letter to the Brazilian football federation
reminding them of this to ensure no repetition. In doing so Fifa
risked accusations of being anti-religious.
On God's team | Kaka & Ambrosini promote their faith at Milan

But Jim Stjerne Hansen, secretary general of the Danish football
association, reacted by urging that all religious statements be banned
from football. He said: "Just as we reject political manifestations,
we should also say no to religious ones. There are too many risks
involved in clubs, for example, with people of different religious
faiths."

Penitent shoot out

That Brazil team was successful, but God doesn't always provide the
assists. When Barcelona starlet Bojan Krkic (left) failed to convert a
chance to score the winning goal against Chelsea in a Champions League
semi-final, he questioned his Catholic faith. After heading wide at
0-0 with only three minutes remaining when it looked impossible to
miss, he said: "That's a goal God would have normally helped me score.
I don't know what happened. I crossed my chest as I came onto the
pitch, so this doesn& rsquo;t really make sense."

His team-mates consoled him, assuring him that God still loved him.
Coach Pep Guardiola (allegedly) revealed: "He was pretty down in the
changing room. We reassured him that if God didn't love him, he'd just
be a normal person, probably working in an office or cleaning the
streets of road-kill or something."

Better than sects

The issue of faith has sometimes attached itself to entire clubs in
somewhat provocative fashion. It is well known that Rangers are
perceived as a bastion of Protestantism, and their city rivals Celtic
the expression of Irish/Scottish Roman Catholicism. When Graeme
Souness was appointed Rangers manager in 1985 he boldly pronounced
that sectarianism was out and that he'd sign Catholic players. Read
more: http://m.goal.com/en/news/article?contentId=2123128&page=5&SID=jisano875ti5g9s36r2f46c3e6




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Join Our 2010/2011 Fantasy Premier League And Win Prizes!

This is quite belated but its still early nevertheless. I am excited to say that it is that time again.  The EPL season began on Saturday, August 14, 2010, with an early kick off between Tottenham and Manchester City. 

 With the start of the new season comes another exciting year in the fantasy league.  We are excited to announce the début Proudly Naija Fantasy League.  This another special way to enjoy the EPL.  Join the league today!

Make sure you and your friends join today the competition today.  We want this fantasy season to be big.  

To join the league is simple. 

1. Log on to the Official Fantasy Premier League website and login/setup your account.
2. Create your fantasy team.
3. Click on the 'Leagues' link you will see on the left hand side of the page and enter the Proudly Naija league code:329979-379618
4. Send an e-mail to chidoziefarsight@gmail.com with your Team name and manager name with the subject line: SIGN ME UP FOR Naija Town Crier FANTASY PRIZES. as we intend to give out prizes to winners                                                            Just to be on the safe side send us an e-mail as soon as you register so you are all ready to go!

4 Traits of A Cool Guy

Much of the discussion so far on the blog has been about hooking up with women... Well I think this should have come first as a basic requirement for all guys, but like they say, it's better late than never.

this element called"cool" makes guys who have it attract more women than they can handle?



Ever heard a woman scream among her peers about how "cool" a guy she met is? you would agree with me that the term cool is rather ambiguos or relative but make no mistake about it, there is an unconcious universal agreement with women about "Cool Guys". Because women are complicated and complex the list of traits would be long, but below are 4 major trait of a cool guy from both a femine and masculine perspective.







BEING INDEPENDENT

Independent is the OPPOSITE of "dependent".

When you act "dependent", you lean on others, you look to them for approval, you ask what they think before you make a decision, you tend to want to stay physically close to them, and your feelings tend to depend on what others feel and think of you.

When you act INDEPENDENT, you lean back, you do things because YOU decided you wanted to, you don't ask others what they think - instead you decide yourself, you are fine walking away from your friends for awhile when you're out, and your feelings are controlled by what YOU think, not what others think.

A "dependent" person will go into a bar with friends, stick close to them all night, ask what everyone else is drinking before they order, get upset easily about things that others say, and constantly be looking for attention and approval in some way.


An INDEPENDENT person, on the other hand, will go into a bar with friends and be more likely to... walk away and look around the place ALONE to see who's there - and feel fine about leaving their friends for a while and striking up a conversation with a stranger... They'll order a drink if they want, or water if they want - and not care what everyone else is drinking... They'll be cool and calm no matter what happens - even if others are getting upset around them... And, most importantly, they aren't looking to others for attention and approval. They're doing their own thing, and enjoying whatever happens.






BEING INDIFFERENT


Most people in this world are ATTACHED to the outcomes of things. They're constantly worrying about what's going to happen... and talking about the future in a fearful, uncertain way. This type of person always wants to know what other people think of them, and they're worrying about what they should do so other people will like them. Unfortunately, this almost ALWAYS comes across as INSECURITY.


An INDIFFERENT person, on the other hand, just goes about life and takes things as they come. The indifferent person is INDIFFERENT to the outcome of whatever situation they're in.  it's a man, and he's approaching a woman, he will be OK with whatever happens. If she's nice to him, great. If she's uptight, no problem. If she's rich, famous, and beautiful... and starts coming on to him, fine. No big deal.


When you are ATTACHED to the outcome of a situation, it makes you act all kinds of freaky. You pause, act nervous, hold back, look for approval, act insecure... and any of 100 other unattractive things.




On the other hand, when you're INDIFFERENT to the outcome, it makes you MAGNETIC. Especially then it comes to women and dating. Indifference is the ultimate way to show a LACK of insecurity in life.


BEING FUNNY


Humor is magic. It's a complete mystery why we find things "funny" and why we "laugh". Crying because someone died makes some logical sense. It's a bad thing, and crying expresses a negative emotion. But when you see a dog run into a window because he doesn't see it... and he gets a confused look on his face, you LAUGH. What's with that?



Humor is interesting to me, in that if you're funny, it makes people FEEL GOOD inside. They laugh, and it triggers positive feelings. If you're not naturally funny, it's a great skill to learn. Read books. Watch live comedy. Do whatever it takes to learn how to be funny. Most of the "coolest" guys I know are wickedly
funny. Some of them are only funny on occasion... but they "get it"... and when they do make a joke, it's DAMN funny.






BEING SOCIALLY ADJUSTED


I know that this sounds funny, but most of the people I know who are "UN-cool" are not very adjusted socially. They lack a certain something in the "social skills" department that makes it OBVIOUS to others (and especially to women) that they don't know how to relate very well to other people. They just never learned how to make others feel comfortable around them.

If you've ever known an accountant or computer programmer that was brilliantly smart, but totally boring, you know what I mean. If people act kind of nervous, strange, and uncomfortable when they're around you, then you also know where I'm coming from on this. I can't teach you how to make people feel comfortable around you in two sentences, but if you need to learn how to mix with people socially, then start PAYING ATTENTION to what's going on around you.

Watch how others dress, carry themselves, walk, and talk. Pay attention to little details... like saying, "What's up?" when you meet someone new, instead of "Hello, pleased to meet you" and such.

...now, is this all there is to being "cool"? Of course not. But it's a great start.

See y'all later...

What Annoys Women, AND What Attracts Them

If you listen to women talk about men, you'll often hear them use the word “ANNOYING" to describe certain men and certain things that some men DO.


Now, as you can probably guess, it's not usually a good thing when a woman uses this particular word to describe a guy... And, as you can ALSO probably guess, when a woman uses this particular word, it's not usually about guys who she is ATTRACTED to (although this isn't always true).
   
THINGS THAT ANNOY WOMEN...

·         Calling her too often

·         Telling her that you have "feelings" for her too
early

·         Giving away your power to her and making her the
boss 

·         Always asking a woman what she wants instead of
leading

·         Acting submissive and weak

·         Accepting her demands, bossy-ness, and
manipulative requests

·         Being her doormat and putting your own needs
aside

   "HOW COULD THIS BE?"... You might be thinking. Well guess what? IT IS.


Women, and ESPECIALLY the most ATTRACTIVE and desirable women, usually consider the above things to be VERY annoying. 

Of course, the reason for this is because no matter how good these kinds of behaviors seem on the surface, there's only one conclusion that can be drawn from them;
THE MAN DOING THEM IS A BONAFIDE, 100% CERTIFIED WUSSY! AND WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO WUSSIES. NEVER!


So now you understand why all of the "nice" things that you've done for women seem to always result in the woman pulling away. It's because she finds your nice-guy "Wuss" behaviors to be ANNOYING.


AND IT KEEPS GETTING WORSE...


To further confuse things, you'll often hear a woman say something to the effect of... "I want a STRONG guy who is also SENSITIVE..." ...or... "He needs to have his own life, his own interests, and his own friends, but also be totally focused on me..."


Women often talk about wanting a combination of things in a man that just don't seem to fit... 


So what's going on here? Are women crazy? (Yes.)


But seriously, what are they talking about? How is it that women seem to always talk about wanting men who have these qualities that don't fit together?


I thought that maybe this came down to getting my lazy ass to the gym and working out. You know, to become "stronger". Well, here's the BIG REALIZATION that I had... I've now realized that I had it all wrong.
Instead of thinking to myself that I was a nice, sensitive guy that needed to become a little stronger, what I really needed was to become a strong guy who could also act sensitive on occasion. 


The difference seems almost like word-play, but it's not. You see, when a woman says that she wants a "strong guy who's also sensitive", what she means, is that She wants a guy who's STRONG. The sensitive part is far more "optional" than the STRONG part.


This is why women often date jerks and guys who are emotionally unavailable, and don't date "nice guys" who would do anything for them.


THINGS THAT ATTRACT WOMEN...

·         Lean back. Act Cocky & Funny around women. Bust on them and give them a hard time. And LEAD the way, don't follow

·         Body Language is more important than WORD language. In fact, you can have the smoothest "pick up lines" in the world... but if you don't understand Body Language, the woman you're talking to CAN'T feel ATTRACTION for you.

·         Doing "nice" things for a woman doesn't make her any more likely to feel ATTRACTION for you. In fact, most of these things BACKFIRE... and end up pushing her AWAY.

·         Even though "jerks" and "bad boys" don't treat women well, it doesn't mean that women don't feel ATTRACTION for them. In fact, women often report feeling INCREDIBLY attracted to these kinds of men... so powerfully, in fact, that they can't CONTROL these feelings...